Get Educated: Cues & Communication

Consent can only be given when both parties have equal power in determining the level of sexual intimacy that will/will not occur in a sexual relationship. Consent is not the absence of a "no"—it is the presence of a "yes," achieved through open communication and respect for others' sexual boundaries.

Whose responsibility is it to get consent?

It is both people's responsibility to ask for and clearly give consent for every sexual act each time it occurs. It is best to get consent before sexual contact, when both parties are sober, and in a comfortable and private place. However, this consent is not final and consent should continue as sexual acts progress.

When asking for or giving consent, it is important to be clear. Do you say one thing and mean another? Be clear and state exactly what you want. Be overly explicit and don't make assumptions.

Is your body language saying the same thing that you are? Body language can be misleading especially when it contradicts verbal messages. Consent needs to be verbal. Be verbally clear when giving consent, and when getting consent, rely on words only.

Consent cannot truly be given if a person is incapacitated, asleep, or unconscious. When in doubt whether or not consent has been given for a sexual act, it is always best to clarify with a partner using our suggested tips.